Existential Kink: unmask your shadow and embrace your power
the must-read, best-selling new release in Spiritual Healing on Amazon
A provocative title… but What is Existential Kink?
a meditation method for dealing with adversity (like all the hardship that comes with the current Coronavirus pandemic, quarantines, and lock downs) …. that’s extremely weird, delightful, and effective
a rapid, sexy, and fun meditation method for undoing negative situations in your life so you can get what you really want
a completely fresh take on exactly how you manifest and co-create your reality, one that’s grounded in pioneering psychology - this goes so far beyond “The Secret” that your head will spin
the notion that all of us humans have disowned, taboo unconscious desires for “bad stuff,” and by making these desires (and the “bad” results they create in our lives) conscious through kinky celebration, we can become much more whole, happy, and powerful
a cutting-edge form of shadow integration and a bold advance in the alchemy of the psyche
a process and an approach to life that’s already dramatically changed the lives of thousands of people for the way better
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HERE’S WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT EXISTENTIAL KINK
“Carolyn’s words cut through the popular light washed self-help and spiritual cannon, offering deep soul relief and a celebration that warmly invites our shadows to be unleashed from closets shrouded by shame. Beyond soul relief, Carolyn shows us that our spiritual growth and magical practices can be deeply fun even in their slimiest iteration. Her skillful way of teaching ancient tantra and alchemy that we can access without robes, mantras, or gurus is a gift.”
— Alexandra Roxo, author of F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power
“A must-read for anyone who wishes to taste true power and self-mastery. This book is your dark, mysterious, witchy best friend who shows you through experience how to embrace of *all* of life — hiding nothing, revealing all, welcoming it into the light of day until you throw your head back in an unrestrained cackle, knowing that you can never be deterred or controlled by anyone’s attempt to shame or guilt you - ever again, forever, amen. With Existential Kink, I have transformed those most dark and shameful parts of my experience into true love of self and other, deep, unwavering acceptance of what is, and more energy and verve than I ever imagined was possible back in my pre-EK life as a depressed and self-sabatoging young woman. Don’t hold back - you know you want it. I know my haters do 😉”
— Laila Marjorie Johnson, coach
What you will learn
How to identify unconscious, taboo desires - and make them conscious so they lose their power to shape your life
We humans don’t just have bedroom kinks (like the desire to have our partner pull our hair during a hot kiss)…. we have existential kinks, unconscious desires for painful things in life.
These unconscious desires guide our decisions and shape our lives, winding us up in hard situations again and gain, without us even realizing it.
A huge part of creating lasting positive change involves shamelessly admitting to ourselves that at a deep, hidden level - we feel attracted to and even derive taboo enjoyment from the “awful” stuff in our experience.
These are facts of the human psyche.
These facts were well-known to the founding pioneers of psychology - Freud, Jung, Lacan - but they’ve been suppressed and ignored by the popular self-help industry because these facts of the human psyche are so, so offensive to most people’s egos.
How to let go of the blame game
“What do you mean I want this ‘awful’ thing? Are you victim-blaming me?! How dare you even suggest that some hidden part of me enjoys this terrible stuff I’m experiencing!”
Well, would you rather not be offended, or would you rather experience profound positive change in your life?
Existential Kink is not about victim-blaming. It’s far worse than that: it’s about no-one blaming. This is ‘far worse’ because our culture loves to blame.
But blame is pointless and it doesn’t help in healing. Indeed, blame only drives taboo desires deeper into the unconscious, where they continue to create dark circumstances.
How to stop pretending you’re not already enlightened
Existential Kink is about coming to realize the divine truth of who we all are, how we create painful stuff both personally and collectively…
… and how we can access actual deep forgiveness and gratitude, so that we can create much more beautiful experiences for ourselves and others in the future.
The kinky, tantric, witchy way to get everything you want
In reading the Existential Kink book, we learn how to embrace the repressed, tabooed, and often-unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.As the book says: “We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark—very dark.”
How to dissolve all the stuck situations in your life
Our existential kink, our taboo and unconscious attraction to “bad stuff” - drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy.
But our existential kink also is the source of our greatest power - because when we make it conscious by “getting off on it” - we liberate huge stores of energy that we can use to re-create our lives exactly as we want them.
How to turn your ‘guilty pleasure’ into raw power
In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliott, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light.
Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures,” love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliott shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.
Who should read it
Existential Kink is for anyone interested in making profound positive changes in their lives through embracing their kinky dark side.
The book is already a major favorite with both high-powered professionals and also with ordinary folks looking to heal their lives.
It’s especially for you if you love magic and manifestation, as it gives a lucid explanation of the way these mysterious processes work that will blow your mind.
HERE’S WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT EXISTENTIAL KINK
“In a year of practicing Existential Kink, my entire life has shifted tremendously. I have more confidence, less anxiety, and more joy in life. I feel powerful, because I recognize how my desires – conscious or not – are being fulfilled every moment!”
Sheryl Miller
“Existential Kink brought out my love of feeling unwanted and victimized which I was able to get off on and then soon after a few sessions the anxiety started to wane. After a couple of weeks I started getting recognition for all kinds of work and now everyone is telling me how much the boss loves me. My team has grown, giving me more resources to handle the workload. My confidence is high and I am now able to properly think about my work and get great results and enjoy the experience of my career.”
Michelle Bradley
“Carolyn’s method of shadow work takes what has always been a harrowing act of bravery, shadow work, and makes it deeply pleasurable as well. This makes me actually desire to do the work! And as such, I’ve accomplished more, integrated more, than at any earlier period of my life. Which is to say that I feel more grounded and liberated than I have since I was a child.”
Maggie Spade
“I was feeling disconnected in my relationships. Although I’d created the relationships (both friendship and romantic) I wanted, I wasn’t able to fully connect intimately within them. I felt distant and removed. Practicing Existential Kink, particularly around romantic and sexual patterns, completely transformed all of my close relationships and has allowed me to connect on significantly deeper, truer levels.”
Anita Billings
“Existential Kink helped me enjoy myself a lot more and give meaning to life, or even more meaning to life than I will ever understand and especially the fun factor of it – it’s exciting and juicy fun.”
Marion Cardamone
“This work has helped me find profound peace.”
Holly Kiefer
“I admit that I am still learning to celebrate and ‘get off’ on the f*ck-ups instead of the old knee-jerk reaction of disappointment. It’s definitely a mind-twister but OH MY GOD it such an exponentially more fun and fulfilling way to go through life!”
Michelle Lewis
“Shadow integration made practical and completely understandable. NO one else explains shadow integration in such a way that it makes solid sense. It can be so difficult to embrace parts of your being that you’ve been rejecting your entire life let alone see those parts. But I LOVE that Carolyn finds a way to poetically and articulately explain why it’s so important AND that she teaches HOW to do it in simple stages!”
Akhera Unpa Shepsutera
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
CAROLYN ELLIOTT, PHD.
Carolyn Elliott, PhD helps people unite their will, wield power, and amass wealth of all kinds via shadow integration and the Hermetic Arts. She earned her doctorate in Critical and Cultural Studies at the University of Pittsburgh. Through her popular online courses, she's taught thousands of people how to change their lives for the way better. She currently directs an online alchemical community for leaders called WEALTH. She's also the lead teacher of the Game of Sovereigns Existential Kink coach training program.