Avoid These 3 Common Mistakes To Unlocking Your Magic

Hello,

Lately, I've heard a common concern come up again and again — that a lot of people are scared/nervous/hesitant to use magic.

Oh, they want to be supremely magical beings more than anything. But for one reason or another...

And usually for similar reasons that most of us have been culturally conditioned to believe...

They feel that they shouldn't use magic.

It's fears like these that block us from stepping into their most badass magical selves.

So in order to loosen up our blocks, let's look at a handful of the reasons we hesitate to use the magic we know... and why they're untrue.

1. Not sure that it's "for the highest good"

Is driving a car "for the highest good"? Is using a cell phone or computer that was very likely made by enslaved children in China "for the highest good"?

Would it be "for the highest good" if you left your friends and family today in order to go live in a cave in the woods or at an ashram in India so you could get away from being mired in these sullying moral complicities of modern society?

And come to think of it - weren't Stalin and Mussolini very certain that their brutal fascist reformations of their countries were "for the highest good"?

My point being, debating whether or not any action you take is "for the highest good" (or believing that the intention to make it so is enough to make it so) - is a bit too grandiose to be useful.

How about try these more humble questions instead:

Will it be fun? would I be okay with achieving the same end through mundane, rather than magical means? do I want to do it?

And then apply the same ethical standards that you would to your "ordinary" actions to your magical actions.

If you would never physically attack someone, don't attack someone magically. If you would happily seduce someone through your "ordinary" wiles, seduce them with your magical wiles.

If you would impact a biological ecosystem by driving your car to work (no judgment yo, I drive a car) - why hesitate to impact a spiritual ecosystem? Are they not ultimately the same?

It's all still your actions, however you complete them.

2. Not certain that "my chakras are clear"

Once I had a friend who I would invite out to events. She would decline with excuses like, "Oh, sorry, I can't - I have to ice my cupcakes."

In her mind, this was a solid reason not to go out. To me it sounded insane. I wish she had just told me, "No, I don't want to go out with you, please stop asking me."

Because the last time I checked, icing cupcakes takes about 30 seconds, maybe 10 minutes if you're getting real artsy with it, and can be done days after the damn cupcakes are baked.

Eventually I stopped inviting her out, because I didn't want to infringe on her cupcake-icing rituals.

When people tell me that they've thought about doing some magic for a particular desire, but they're not certain that "their chakras are clear" or that their "intentions are pure" (see above - a demand for purity is a Puritanical puff of nonsense) ...

... in my inner ear, I hear my old pal's voice telling me she has to stay home and ice her cupcakes.

Fuck those cupcakes, they'll be fine. Life is happening.

For all you know your act of radically impure, ethically complex magic is exactly what you need to really get those chakras scrubbed down once and for all.

3. Don't feel like I'm "a real witch" or "a real magician"

When I was in high school, all I wanted was to be "a real writer." Like Virginia Woolf or Jane Austen or Colette.

What this meant was: I wanted others to see me as "a real writer."

To this end, I would only write something if it was for a contest or a publication that I could win and get public recognition for.

Plus I wore berets and developed a caffeine dependency that haunts me to this day (so I could look cool with those little espresso cups!).

I won a bunch of awards, lots of people saw me as "a real writer" - and I was more miserable than I had ever been.

I developed a grinding case of writer's block that didn't loosen its grip until 7 years later, when I finally found the will to stop trying to be seen as "literary."

Now I have no literary street cred at all, I'm just a dubious hack on the internet, and I'm happier and I write more than ever before.

My point is this: there's very little true satisfaction in getting other people or your own inner critic to agree that you're a "real" anything.

Actual writers write stuff. Stuff that may not qualify to anyone else as "literary" or "good" or "smart."

Actual witches and magicians magic stuff. Stuff that may not register as "legit enough" or "mystical enough" to anyone else.

I invite you to go ahead and do a bunch of magic - and please do it very poorly and wrong, with no hope of ever being "a real witch" or "a real magician."

You might be surprised by how beautifully it works out, and isn't that quality of surprise what we really want from magic anyway?

In Nomine Babalon et Therion,

Carolyn Elliott

author of Existential Kink

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