why you can let go of "Wrong & Bad" forever
For the love of everything holy and profane (and of course there’s really no difference)…
…I hope you’ve taken some time to read the first few chapters of my Existential Kink book.
Why? Because it’s a cutting-edge approach to shadow integration that can empower you to dramatically and beautifully change your whole experience of life.
If you haven’t yet, I urge you to close all your other tabs, focus your attention and give it a go —
— I promise social media and your to-do list can happily wait for you…
Okay, you’re back and ready?
Excellent. Let’s proceed
The first of the stumbling blocks people encounter when they begin to practice EK is the temptation to self-blame, or what I like to call “the Wrong & Bad Program.”
The Wrong & Bad Program says that if at a deep unconscious level you’re responsible for everything in your experience (as EK philosophy suggests), and your experience is painful or difficult..,
… then that means it’s because you suck.
This, of course, is a fascinating and compelling story. It’s very widely believed, and it’s the beating heart of every great tragic story in the world.
It’s why Oedipus gouged his eyes out and why Ophelia drowned herself.
It’s why people in your community are popping Oxycontin and why even the 45th President of the United States, one of the most objectively powerful people in the world (bless him and his sweet heart) …
… prefers to see himself as a persecuted victim rather than accept full responsibility for his every experience.
The Wrong & Bad story is also Not. True. At. All.
Wrong & Bad isn’t a fact.
It’s just a clever, high-tech radio station that broadcasts itself into just about every human head.
It’s cleverness lies in the fact that it tailors its actually-very-impersonal broadcast to the particular circumstances of your life.
The Wrong & Bad high-tech radio station knows more about you than even Facebook or Google.
It knows everything you know about yourself, and it uses that to persuade you that you’re hopelessly awful, lacking, unworthy, and that the only way to squirm away from your eternal awfulness is to blame other people.
So today, I want to invite you to a radical act: rebel against the Wrong & Bad Program.
Know that it tells you that you need to “do better, be better” in order to be happy, but really in order to be happy all you have to do is stop trusting its broadcast.
Realize that the fact that your world emanates from both your personal and collective unconscious doesn’t mean you suck…
… it means that:
1) your true magical identity is divine, vast, and like reality itself, You include all opposites of good and evil, day and night, pleasure and pain
2) … that your true Self includes but is in no way limited to your present body and personality
3)… and that your true Self both grieves and rejoices in everything, so you might as well, too
I mean, Yup, it sure looks like each of us is a separate person in a separate body, that we live one life and then we die…
… but deep down you know that that’s also not the whole story.
You’ve had glorious night-time dreams or psychedelic visions or just a beautiful hunches that you’re intimately connected to all things.
Trust those revelations.
Trust that you can both tenderly mourn and also revel in everything in your daily experience no matter how “dark” or “awful” without you or anyone else being “to blame” for it.
love,
Carolyn
founder of WITCH
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