the secret key to getting what you want (and it's not "think positive")

In many metaphysical circles, the answer to the question "How do I do effective manifestation magic?" is a fairly pat one:

Think positive.

Act like the thing you want is already here.

Visualize that you have it.

Totally believe it will happen, and it will.

Except of course, when it doesn't ;)

The "think positive" school of manifestation magic has an illustrious history, springing out of the New Thought movement in America in the 19th century, and blossoming into massive popular prominence with the publication of The Secret in 2006.

Rhonda Byrne (the author of The Secret) was a lot less intellectually subtle in making her point than the original New Thought heroes (Ralph Waldo Emerson, Mary Baker Eddy of Christian Science, to name a few)...

... and while The Secret leaves me cold, I've certainly gleaned plenty of inspiration from those older New Thought works.

So I don't want to knock the "positivity" school entirely - having a "can do" attitude is immensely useful, and just about every magical person I know has had delightful experiences of getting "the thing" that they visualized and affirmed for.

But likewise, just about every magical person I know (and I've been in this line of work for awhile - I've talked with thousands) has also had plenty of disheartening experiences when "thinking positive" didn't do jack.

The New Thought / Law of Attraction crowd doesn't have much of an answer to this conundrum, other than "well, you must still be dwelling in negativity - think positive HARDER. Have more FAITH."

Which to me, just isn't a satisfying answer.

By nature, I'm a rather melancholy person. I love to brood. I'm capable of Morrissey-level towering heights of self-pity. I suck at "just having faith."

Furthermore, I'm not good at "looking on the bright side."

The world's glaring injustices stick out rather prominently in my perception, as does my own pain and that of others around me.

So for a time, I thought perhaps this dark disposition just doomed me to being good "no good" at success magic.

And then gradually I discovered - through intensive personal experimentation, work with thousands of clients and students, and a long study of Hermeticism, depth psychology, and existentialism while earning my doctorate in Critical and Cultural Studies at the University of Pittsburgh...

... that it's possible to undo long-standing painful patterns and create beautiful manifestations in one's life... (giant increases in income, huge spiritual awakening, finding or re-igniting true love)...

... not by looking relentlessly for "the silver lining" and making endless Vision Boards...

... but rather by plunging right into the most foul, nasty bits of one's life and psyche with freaky gusto.

In short, the missing secret ingredient to mind-blowing manifestation magic is to learn how to exquisitely relish "the bad stuff" in the world and one's self.

It sounds weird, and believe me - it is.

It's so weird and against the grain of conventional wisdom that it really helps to have a vibrant community and experienced teachers with you to learn how to do it.

And yet it's not ultimately all that different than growing out of a childhood taste for Kraft Macaroni & Cheese and into an adult appreciation of more complex and piquant flavors - like a tangy gorgonzola or a hard smoky Scotch.

This ethos lies at the heart of the Existential Kink method of shadow integration that I teach in-depth in my WEALTH community (along with a tool kit of other profound processes)...

(which will open for registration - on March 16th - keep your eyes open for more info).

Existential Kink is an alchemical approach to creating profound joyful change...

... that doesn't ask you to slap a smiley face on the steaming piles of shit in your world, but rather one that shows you exactly how to use that shit for the amazing fuel that it is.

I wrote a page-turner of a book on it that offers a great introduction to the practice, which you can already find here and here  and at your local bookstore come March 1st.

I'll have a lot more to say about Existential Kink (EK for short) and this work of diving with gusto into "the nasty bits" over the next few weeks, so stay tuned.

love and villainy,

Carolyn Elliott

author of Existential Kink: unmask your shadow and claim your power (in stock and ready to ship at Amazon, you can buy it today and get it this week!)

my baby daughter Eleusis “Lulu'“ Elliott - getting ready for a drive with mama’s book

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