Posts in Sex
what happens when desire transforms you?

In my work I help people find another relationship to desire that ends this problem of boredom, stuckness, not-good-enough-ness.

How? By showing how to let our desire be as BIG as it truly is -- Vast, endless Eros for life - falling in love with every (gross, "bad") part of ourselves, with life and death themselves....

… and thereby find the kind of invincible love that doesn't wither in the face of resentment but instead burns hotter, brighter, weirder.

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electric wisdom for when you don't get texted back

Here's a little something I wrote in response to a brilliant woman leader who felt a bit down and powerless when a guy she's dating didn't text her back. From my long single years I sure know what that "waiting for him to text me back" feels like, ugh. So intense.

And from those years I learned a thing or two, so this is what I told her: The fact that he hasn't texted you is a testament to your kinky shadow power to generate a hot sensation of rejection.

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